A Depression Sufferer’s Guide On Getting Through Your Bad Days

Hello everybody and welcome back! Today I wanted to talk to you about getting through those bad mental health days. The ones where it’s slightly harder to think positively and where motivation is non-existent. Everybody has them! Here’s how you can overcome them.

Disclaimer: What works for me may not work for you, as everyone experiences things very differently. These are just some things that have helped me to get through bad mental health days.

 

Mental Health, Mental Illness, Depression

Be Selfish

To be ‘selfish’ is defined as lacking consideration for other people. It has negative connotations. For example, as children we are told to share with others; and to not be selfish. But is being selfish really a bad thing?

It can be difficult to be selfish and to put yourself first on difficult mental health days. Sometimes individuals feel undeserving of self-care and taking time out. It’s at these times when self-care is needed the most. The most important relationship that you have with anybody is yourself. Fall in love with taking care of yourself. It’s the greatest medicine.

 

Practice Self-Care

Self-care can be practiced in multiple ways. For example, meditation, journaling and reading. But it also comes in unconventional forms, like saying no to the extra shift at work, eating three meals everyday, getting yourself out of the house, attending appointments and taking medication. By setting small goals for yourself to do these things, it brings a sense of achievement and a positive association between being ‘selfish’ and recovery from mental illness.

As I am still in recovery, my goals have changed. They’ve changed from ‘get myself out of bed in the morning’ to ‘getting my university place to become a mental health nurse’. By ticking off goals at the end of the day, you’re showing a dedication to getting better. If in your darkest moment you can consciously choose to stay alive and fight against mental illness, you will get there one day.

 

Have a Shower and put on Clean Clothes

Simply having a shower and putting on some clean clothes can make a huge difference to your mood. It can be helpful to visualise the water washing away the negative emotions and feelings which have been consuming you. Leaving you feeling alot lighter and able to face the day.

 

Express Yourself

Sometimes a trigger can leave overwhelming emotions bottled up inside of you, and keeping them there can cause more harm than good. Sooner or later it will burst open and can make you behave irrationally.

Expression allows individuals to release their negative emotions safely. Forms of expression could be blogging, writing, painting, singing, exercising and baking. Putting this negative energy out of your body feels like a huge weight off your shoulders. It prevents individuals turning to unhelpful coping mechanisms. This also acts as a distraction from the racing thoughts which accompany some mental illnesses.
In the moment it can be challenging to initially get started: picking up a paintbrush or putting on your trainers. At this point you need to remind yourself that you are deserving of getting better and it is another step towards your recovery.

 

Be in the Company of Others

Isolating yourself can be dangerous because it allows negative thoughts to take over and gain control. Being with others is a distraction and it proves that you aren’t alone. Suffering from any mental illness can feel extremely lonely, but negative thoughts can be contradicted by the people around you, reinforcing that you are loved and needed in this world.

 

Go Outside

Breaking away from your room on a bad mental health day is so important! Although, it is also incredibly difficult and scary when you are struggling with mental illness. It can feel like a huge effort to go outside. But, I do believe that being in the fresh air and watching the world go by has helped with my recovery.

 

Recall Past Achievements

When I am having a bad day, I find it very easy to pick out things that I don’t like about myself, and things that I could of done better or should be doing. To pull myself out of this self-destructive mindset, I reach towards things that I have done which I feel proud of.
When I read the comments on my blog posts I instantly feel appreciated, needed and that I am helping people, which I love to do. Consequently, reading text messages or birthday cards, listening to voicemails and talking to family members can help you to bring light on how much you have achieved in your lifetime, and how proud you should feel of yourself.

 

Gratitude

It is very easy to focus on the bad things which are happening in our lives. We get caught up in a series of negative emotions and forget to appreciate the smaller, positive moments. Getting into the habit of writing a list of things you are grateful for, at the end of your day, can help you to feel happier and more present.

 

Seek Professional Help

If you are having a series of continual bad mental health days, and feel that you are developing a mental health problem, please seek help. This can be extremely difficult, so it may be helpful for you to tell someone you trust how you are feeling. This means that they can support you throughout this process.

If you are in a crisis and need help urgently, you can go to any A&E department and ask for help. Alternatively, you can contact the Samaritans on 116 123.

How do you get through a bad mental health day? Leave me a comment angels!

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Love Casey x

 

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55 Comments

  1. Khadija Mo
    05/09/2018 / 1:55 PM

    LOVE THIS! Thank you for sharing! Personally, I spend some time alone (watch a movie/tv series or listen to music) <3https://octoberslallu.blogspot.com/

    • Casey
      05/09/2018 / 6:58 PM

      Hello lovely! Thank you for your comment. Being in your own company is great, as long as you don’t cut yourself off from the rest of the world! Music makes everything better!Hope to see you again soon x

  2. Kim Cornell
    05/09/2018 / 8:20 PM

    These are some great tips. Being a little selfish and practicing self care are so important! What do you do on the days you're not motivated at all and can't bring yourself out of bed to the shower? I agree being around people helps but the right people.

    • Casey
      07/09/2018 / 9:32 AM

      Hiya Kim! Thank you so much for your lovely comment. On those days I try to let myself be. It's okay to feel unmotivated and low sometimes. Just don't allow those feelings to take over and consume you. There's always tomorrow.Lots of love, Casey x

  3. Unknown
    07/09/2018 / 10:40 AM

    Thank-you! So important to speak about this. Important piece

    • Casey
      07/09/2018 / 2:04 PM

      Hello! Thank you so much x

    • Casey
      08/09/2018 / 9:35 AM

      Hello lovelyThank you so much, hope to see you back soon!Love Casey x

  4. onemorelight
    08/09/2018 / 9:17 AM

    I love this! πŸ™‚

    • Casey
      08/09/2018 / 9:35 AM

      Thank you!Love Casey x

  5. Laura
    09/09/2018 / 10:27 AM

    So many great ideas! Having a shower is especially important. It may sound like a small thing but it makes a huge difference

    • Casey
      12/09/2018 / 10:46 AM

      Hello Laura,Thank you so much lovely! It really does! I hope to see you back soon,Love Casey x

  6. Kate Louise A
    09/09/2018 / 10:36 AM

    I love this. When I get out of the shower I have a totally different view on things! So strange isn't it. Great tips and I'm sure this post will help lots of people. xxKate | http://www.paintingoctober.blogspot.com

    • Casey
      12/09/2018 / 10:48 AM

      Hiya Kate,Thank you so much! That is really nice of you to say. It is strange how much of an impact it can have on your mood. I hope to see you back soon.Love Casey xx

  7. Nicka Cassandra Jerao
    11/09/2018 / 5:13 PM

    Thank you for the wonderful tips! I will definitely book marking your post for future reference β™₯️

    • Casey
      12/09/2018 / 10:50 AM

      Hiya Nicka,Thank you so much!Love Casey x

  8. Kabel Salad
    12/09/2018 / 10:02 AM

    Thank you for sharing your tips! Most of them work for me as well and that was great to remember them. It is quite easy to forget about taking care of yourself. Alice from Kabelsalad

    • Casey
      12/09/2018 / 10:52 AM

      Hello Kabel,Thank you for your comment lovely! It's very easily done, though it's such an important part of my daily routine.Love Casey x

  9. onemorelight
    17/09/2018 / 5:06 PM

    Great post with great advice! It's amazing what a shower and clean clothes – feeling clean in general! – can do for your mental health! If I'm struggling to find the energy I often go for a bath so I feel clean but can relax at the same time as well! πŸ˜‚πŸ’•πŸ’–

    • Casey
      03/10/2018 / 11:21 AM

      Hello lovely,Thank you so much for your comment!Love Casey x

  10. Amie Cadwallader
    10/10/2018 / 7:04 PM

    These are such good tips my lovely! Self care is so important when you're having a bad mental health day.Love, Amie ❀ The Curvaceous Vegan

    • Casey
      12/10/2018 / 7:45 AM

      Hi Amie,Thank you so much!Love Casey x

  11. thisdreamsalive
    10/10/2018 / 7:06 PM

    These are great tips. It's really hard to be selfish sometimes, but it takes a toll when you constantly do everything for everyone else and neglect your own needs. Your own mental health needs to be a priority. Ash | thisdreamsalive.wordpress.com

    • Casey
      12/10/2018 / 7:46 AM

      Hey Ash,Thank you! I completely agree with you lovely!Love Casey x

  12. Chelsea ann
    10/10/2018 / 7:10 PM

    Great post! I find it really helpful when I'm around others or when I take some time out to remember what I am grateful for!

    • Casey
      12/10/2018 / 7:46 AM

      Hi Chelsea,Thank you so much!Love Casey x

  13. Unknown
    10/10/2018 / 7:43 PM

    Thank you for sharing this! As someone who deals with mental health issues I agree that these are all good ways to help get through bad days. Writing down things you are grateful for is a really good exercise, and it's nice to be able to look back on those lists when you are having a bad day and maybe are having a hard time remembering what you are grateful for.

    • Casey
      12/10/2018 / 7:47 AM

      Thank you for such a lovely comment! Love Casey x

  14. Tamar Unique Tay
    10/10/2018 / 10:54 PM

    Hey Casey this is such an enlightening blog about mental health. Thank you!! I don't remember the last time I painted lol but sounds like a joyful idea. Plus you are only 18…? Good contentThanksTamar

    • Casey
      12/10/2018 / 7:48 AM

      Hello Tamar,That's very kind of you, thank you so much!Love Casey x

  15. John Aiwone
    10/10/2018 / 11:09 PM

    Really informative Casey! Poor mental health should be treated just as much as poor physical health. For getting over a bad day I'd say I really like doing hobbies I enjoy (e.g. working out, watching my favourite TV series or films) or talking to others about problems I may have had throughout thr day or recently. Like you said in the post it is a HUGE weight off your shoulders and a sense of pressure gone away. Johnny | Johnny's Traventures

    • Casey
      12/10/2018 / 7:49 AM

      Hello Johnny,Thank you very much! It should, but the sad reality is that it isn't treated in the same way. That's a really good coping mechanism! Thank you for commenting!Love Casey x

  16. Sarah Paul
    11/10/2018 / 12:25 AM

    I love this post so much. Some of these things should be really obvious, but it can be so hard to put yourself first on those hard days.

    • Casey
      12/10/2018 / 7:50 AM

      Hi Sarah,Thank you so much! It can be hard, but once you start a regular routine it can become a habit.Love Casey x

  17. sophieheartsnet
    11/10/2018 / 7:07 PM

    This is such a great post and I love that you clarified that these are things that work for you! Being selfish is so important sometimes and I agree with pretty much all of the others too! Soph – https://sophhearts.com x

    • Casey
      12/10/2018 / 7:51 AM

      Hiya Soph, That's very kind of you, thank you for commenting lovely!Love Casey x

  18. Soffy S
    12/10/2018 / 7:13 PM

    I bloody love this post! Especially tip number one to be selfish. My sister in law has had to go through so many problems medically and her doctors keep saying it’s all stress related and I remember clearly one them saying to her β€˜can you at least be selfish for once and put yourself first before everyone else?’ I LOVE this advice. There is nothing wrong with being selfish especially when it comes to your own wellbeing!Soffy // themumaffairs.blogspot.com

    • Casey
      30/10/2018 / 5:16 PM

      Hello Soffy,Oh my goodness! Thank you so much for your lovely comment. That has made my day!Love Casey x

  19. Chloe Jane
    12/10/2018 / 7:31 PM

    Great list! I usually read some self-care books and write into a gratitude journal. I totally agree with the getting into the shower to make yourself feel a bit better, it always helps me to have a shower, dress up nicely and do my make-up and it makes me feel so much more happier. Lovely post. Chloe xhttp://www.chloechats.com

    • Casey
      30/10/2018 / 5:16 PM

      Hello Chloe,Thank you lovely! I'm really glad that works for you! It's such a good way to feel refreshed and able to start a fresh.Love Casey x

  20. Rhianna Campbell
    28/10/2018 / 11:08 PM

    Great tips! I find I do similar things. I let myself do the things I normally kind of judge myself for – let myself have a long lie in or a nap, wear my pyjamas all day, watch back to back TV and read books in bed! I think self comfort is the key for me feeling better on days like this :)Rhianna xwww.tsundokugirl.com

    • Casey
      30/10/2018 / 5:17 PM

      Hi Rhianna,Thank you! Let yourself do those things, because you need to recharge regularly.Love Casey x

    • Casey
      07/11/2018 / 7:27 PM

      You are so kind! Thank you so much!Love Casey x

  21. Emma
    14/12/2018 / 5:15 PM

    This is so wonderful, I think I have to try a few of these things right away!! Thanks for sharing, Casey :)xx Emmathe25lifecrisis.com

  22. Casey
    15/12/2018 / 3:37 PM

    Hello Emma,Thank you so much for your lovely comments on my blog!Love Casey x

  23. 16/01/2019 / 2:44 PM

    These are some really good tips! thanks for sharing πŸ™‚ the ‘recall past achievements’ tip is great – looking back at good things can remind you that you can do them again πŸ™‚

    -Lena
    http://www.lenasnotebook.blogspot.com

    • casestreetx
      Author
      16/01/2019 / 7:23 PM

      Hello Lena,
      Thank you! There really is nothing that you can’t do, it’s your mind which tries to convince you otherwise!
      Love Casey x

  24. 27/03/2019 / 11:18 AM

    I’m so glad I happen to stumble upon this blog post. These are all spot-on suggestions. I have personally found Gratitude journaling super effective for keeping my center and my mind at peace. I have realized that we generally tend to be hard on ourselves and forget about our past achievements.

    I’m wondering if I could use some of these suggestions and create a post on our Instagram page. Anyway, I’m writing to you separately via email. πŸ™‚

    • casestreetx
      Author
      14/04/2019 / 3:14 PM

      Hello Pritesh,
      Thank you very much! I am really pleased that gratitude journaling works for you! That is a very common trait of many people, we are our own biggest critics sometimes! Of course you can!
      Love Casey x

  25. 23/05/2019 / 4:02 AM

    It’s always super nice to see bad mental health days talked about in a healthy light, so thank you! It’s also really nice to have reminders for myself that I really am doing what’s best for me on those bad days.

  26. 23/05/2019 / 7:13 AM

    I definitely agree that being selfish is not a bad thing in regards to your mental and physical health. You have to put yourself first! Great post πŸ™ŒπŸ»

  27. 23/05/2019 / 7:56 PM

    I love these tips! I especially like recalling past achievements as it allows us to celebrate ourselves instead of picking ourselves apart. Thanks for sharing!

  28. 23/05/2019 / 11:17 PM

    Very well written! I have used many of these too and managed to lift my mood. It is scary but we can always win over it by just the will to want to feel better. And talking helps so much. ❀

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